About me,
Graham
Thanks for joining me here…
I’m here to share with you that life really can be so much more rewarding when we learn to create harmony after a living with a diagnosis.
HOW CAN THIS HAPPEN?
The real healing journey started to work when I worked on making a few simple life changes. Within a short period of time I came out of the crazy highs and suicidal lows. This started in January 2018 and this great journey continues to strengthen.
Right now I am filled with gratitude and living with great purpose in my life. You can get to this stage too!
This is by no means an episode or an ego trip. It is simply meaning that since starting my new daily practice I am now at a stage in life where I have no great needs or desires and can truly realise the true potential available. My business has never been so good and my relationships and connections are growing all the time.
As I connect with more and more gratitude I’m able to look back at my life and see how all my dreams and goals have been actualised. Now, I’m excited about helping more people who know they want to work their way out of their diagnosis.
Here’s me back in 2023 while in the UK to connect with family. My eldest sister took this snapshot. It was lovely to share an evening out connecting with our sis!
More about the hats…
I used to joke and say “if you wanna get a head, get a hat”. Ever since my teens I wanted a hat. I got to a stage where I started to compliment friends wearing hats. One really good friend told me to get myself a hat. I did!
Now I say “if you wanna get ahead, get a hat”.
I literally did move ahead. I now love wearing hats!
How to keep young and create inner joy?
I went through a stage when all I was doing was working. Which was great as I love scuba diving and being out on the ocean. However, I wanted to get fitter and do something different. My thought was, how do I get fitter while being in nature.
A week later I was at a friends house when I saw an elderly Balinese gentleman polishing an old Giant ATX 970 full suspension mountain bike. He became a great friend and mentor. I eventually bought the bike, slowly I got back into cycling, which was a passion as a child.
I started to find some great nature trails, met lots of new friends into cycling, worked on creating and being a part of communities. This continues to grow.
To answer the question above – find things you really love doing, and share it with others 
My philosophy on physical health and not getting too far overweight?
I have never really gained too much weight, if I ever put on excess weight and my trousers or shorts no longer fit properly, I do something about it.
Maybe it’s because I grew up being very frugal when it comes to spending that I didn’t want to buy bigger trousers. Whatever it was, I know deep down I don’t feel good when I’m a size bigger.
While working away I was eating lots of buffets which meant I ate far more than usual and this button popped. When I arrived back home, I stopped eating breakfasts. Found I had far more energy and haven’t eaten regular breakfasts since 2003.
Men’s groups
Just prior to covid I joined my first mens group. I have been to a few mens groups and they didn’t really resonate with me.
Around mid 2024 I was sent an invite to a group that sounded like it was going to be different. The main difference being; the group was said to be about preventing suicide and working on emotional health for men.
This group of men are really quite different. Not only have I made some great new friends, being one of the eldest in the group means I’m also learning a lot about what younger men are going through.
The main thing I enjoy about this group, is being of service and being able to share some of the experiences and lessons I’ve learnt along this journey!
Huge thanks to Calvin at OriginalCaptureCreative.com for capturing the moment here from the Brotherhood Mens Group.
How are we meant to enjoy life?
We really are social beings, do as much as you can to create friendships. Say yes to events and truly “be there” for other people.
Huge thanks to Shane for taking this photo of me, without me even knowing!
January 2015 at work.
Just so people don’t think I’m bluffing, this is what I also do for a living. I lead expeditions around Asia and Beyond.
Even with the best work/career in the world, at this stage I was still suicidally depressed.
It’s not about the work, or the place — it’s mindset!
This yacht was the biggest sailing yacht of its class at the time.
January 2026 at work in West Papua.
I always wanted to work more with guests who are more interested in culture. This is remote tribe who protect their pristine natural environment and culture.
Connecting guests with these kind of experiences can be life changing.